Authenticity and purpose
Call me Fifi the futuristic babe and mama because before 2023 was here, I was already in it as of December 2022. I had already begun living out my 'new year resolutions' and learning from the gong show of early to mid-2022. I was fully in mommy mode, focused on writing & career improvement, was … Continue reading Waxing in 2023 & major lesson from 2022
Yesterday's devotional was around the bible verse of Galatians 6:7 which states "For whatever a man sows, that and that only shall he reap". September is a special month for me. It marks a very sudden and colourful change. From whining about the scorching heat, we are ushered into the beginning of cooler toward freezing … Continue reading A September to be
Working out has been an exercise in futility, Deji thinks to himself. Ha! Another pun, he chuckles out loudly. He has a bizarre knack of seeking out puns in day to day dialogue with himself and others. He knows he should be more upset but he just can’t. If anything, the whole thing seems laughable. … Continue reading Legs
A lot of woes can be lain at the feet of 2020 and rightfully so. However, as tragic as the year has been in many ways, 2020 taught (hopefully) each of us life changing lessons. Lessons of gratitude, of contentment, of vision, and of faith. 2020 made crystal clear the importance of family and friends … Continue reading 2020: Not so bad
With the ongoing protests in Nigeria and my preoccupation with remaining informed of all the happenings, somehow I missed the celebration of the International Day of the Girl Child. "This international observance day of October 11 was declared by the United Nations to support more opportunity for girls and increase awareness of gender inequality faced … Continue reading Happy International Day of the Girl Child!
It was the year 2003. The 14 year old me waited impatiently to hear the closing bell and head to Mr. Biggs, a then-famous-Nigerian restaurant, with my friend to buy what had become our favourite pastry. At the sound of the bell, we began the 12 minutes trek from our school to Mr. Biggs. As … Continue reading Always so close
Last week, I witnessed a young, overweight woman shyly walk into the gym as I worked out. It was obvious to even a blind man that she was absolutely terrified of being there. With slouched shoulders and her face to the ground, she slowly walked to the darkest corner of the gym, took a pair … Continue reading Gym jitters? You aren’t alone
starting over in your 30s and 40s. It is okay to begin again and again and AGAIN. empathizing with the many women and men dealing with fertility issues. Learn to read the room and not hurt people with prying questions and unsolicited comments. denouncing and destroying the societal burden on women to make marriages work … Continue reading Let’s normalize…
There are many reasons why I chose to begin exercising. Aside the pleasing aesthetics of sculpted muscles (to some) and the evident health benefits of a fit lifestyle, in 2018 when I first started, it was mostly important for me to see what my once underweight, skinny and frail body was capable of. I was … Continue reading Strength
I just finished watching the Netflix documentary titled 'Skin' by Beverly Naya, a fellow female Nigerian. Aside from the nostalgia I now sorely feel viewing parts of my home country on screen, this documentary is a harsh reminder of the colourism that exists in Nigeria (I can't speak for every African country). Luckily, I never … Continue reading Beautiful, black skin
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