Authenticity and purpose
Call me Fifi the futuristic babe and mama because before 2023 was here, I was already in it as of December 2022. I had already begun living out my 'new year resolutions' and learning from the gong show of early to mid-2022. I was fully in mommy mode, focused on writing & career improvement, was … Continue reading Waxing in 2023 & major lesson from 2022
I find the author, Buchi Emecheta, very interesting. I often wish she were alive so I could have a chit chat with her. The trick to splendid writing is honesty and honesty is often best drawn from our own experiences. We feel it so deeply that when it's spilled out through words, it is simply … Continue reading Book Review: Second Class Citizen by Buchi Emecheta
Yesterday's devotional was around the bible verse of Galatians 6:7 which states "For whatever a man sows, that and that only shall he reap". September is a special month for me. It marks a very sudden and colourful change. From whining about the scorching heat, we are ushered into the beginning of cooler toward freezing … Continue reading A September to be
I had a nightmare last night. In it, strong hands were around my slim neck. A hard slap caused my teeth to break the skin of my inner right cheek. A forceful shove and I was face down kissing the earth. Except when I now put a hand on my face, I know it wasn’t … Continue reading My whole world
‘Ha!’, Nkoli exclaims and scratches her scalp under her newly installed weave covered protectively in a large bonnet. Her thick thighs open and close rapidly to the beat of her racing heart. She’s seated on the edge of her bed facing the closed door. She’s waiting. She’s been waiting for the knob of the door … Continue reading Over a pot of stew
On January 28, 2021, I got the Photorefractive Keratectomy (PRK) laser eye surgery. A year later, I look back with ZERO regrets that I went ahead with the procedure. For a bit of fun facts, my previous PRK post was posted online on April 7, 2021. On April 17, 2021, I found out I was … Continue reading Update: One year after PRK laser eye surgery
It was the year 2003. The 14 year old me waited impatiently to hear the closing bell and head to Mr. Biggs, a then-famous-Nigerian restaurant, with my friend to buy what had become our favourite pastry. At the sound of the bell, we began the 12 minutes trek from our school to Mr. Biggs. As … Continue reading Always so close
starting over in your 30s and 40s. It is okay to begin again and again and AGAIN. empathizing with the many women and men dealing with fertility issues. Learn to read the room and not hurt people with prying questions and unsolicited comments. denouncing and destroying the societal burden on women to make marriages work … Continue reading Let’s normalize…
There are many reasons why I chose to begin exercising. Aside the pleasing aesthetics of sculpted muscles (to some) and the evident health benefits of a fit lifestyle, in 2018 when I first started, it was mostly important for me to see what my once underweight, skinny and frail body was capable of. I was … Continue reading Strength
I just finished watching the Netflix documentary titled 'Skin' by Beverly Naya, a fellow female Nigerian. Aside from the nostalgia I now sorely feel viewing parts of my home country on screen, this documentary is a harsh reminder of the colourism that exists in Nigeria (I can't speak for every African country). Luckily, I never … Continue reading Beautiful, black skin
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